Struggles Of Nepali Girl

Here we are, the Nepali girls. Being a Nepali we certainly have restrictions on many things and on top of that if we are girls then definitely we are restricted and bounded. It's proud to be called as Nepali but at the same time having a tag of "Nepali Girl" I have to deal with lot of stuffs. Stuffs like

1. Marriage after 20


It's like a tradition that girls should get married after the age of 20 in our society. If we are just 3,4 years over 20 then we hear our relatives, neighbors and whole family talking about your marriage not about you.









2. Male dominant society


"The first child of family must be son". We hear this dialogue all the time. How it feels when you hear shit it is a daughter. Nobody thinks that the son whom they love most are also given birth by the women.

3. Single mom is a nightmare

If you are a single mother left by your husband then you should always be ready to face your backbiters. Even if the mistake is not yours, you are the one who is targeted to criticize. No one ever praises you for your deeds and be happy for you and your child.

4. Sex before marriage is taboo

Attraction, dating, kissing, hugging all are like "OK" but when it comes to sex then people around us react like we had done some crime. If a boy had a sex then everybody ignores saying it's in their nature. And when same happens with girls they are rebuked. Why are all wrong for us(girls) only?

5. Criticize on clothing

I think only Nepali girls have to rethink what she should wear if she is going out. If the length of your skirt is an inch above your knee then people start staring at you like you are wearing their dress. If  a small part your belly is seen then they start doing tittle-tattle about you and you hear rumors about you as shameless girl.

6. Period = untouchable


I ask you all, is period a disease? I am confused because people around me acts like I have got some communicable disease when my period starts. Girls are not allowed to go to kitchen, and specially in (Chettri and Brahman family) girls can't touch men with 'janai'. I mean what the bullshit is that.

7. Household work is a must

I think household comes along with Nepali girls. It's like a rule that every girl must cook, wash clothes and dishes, clean the floors. We are ordered as if it is any compulsion and if we try to deny then we hear typical dialogue "being a daughter you won't do it?".

8. No freedom at all

If we are out of home at the evening, we got number of calls and texts saying "come home soon". And the interesting part is that time is only 6 or 7 pm. If we want to do anything, go anywhere, wear anything, be with anyone we do not have freedom. Why just everyone let us go and be free.





Are these all things for us just because we are Nepali girls. If you think yes then stop right there and just rethink.